1. It really helps to establish a form of communication with your roommate(s). Whether it's text messages, Facebook messenger, IG DM's, phone calls or in person, it's inevitable that you will both have comments and concerns. An example could be that your roommate gets ready really loudly in the morning when you're trying to sleep and it's waking you up earlier than you'd like to be awake, or you get back really late when they're already sleeping and don't realize that you're waking them up. Or it could be something minor like checking in with them to see if they need groceries at the store. Whatever the specifics, you will 100% need to establish a form of communication if you want things to go smoothly. Take it from me. My roommate and I eventually texted to communicate, though I wish I had spoken up more during the times I needed to.
2. On that note, speak up! I never knew how hard it would be for me to speak up when something made me uncomfortable until I had a roommate. Don't get me wrong, things ran smoothly most of the time, and my roommate and I spoke a lot about random things like our favorite artists, TV shows and what was on our IG feed. But for fear of ruining the relationship, when small things bothered me, I didn't say anything. You'd be surprised at how easy it is to just let things slide. We had very different sleeping schedules, among other things, and I tried to make it work so she could be as comfortable as possible. And the same went for her. But guess what, you didn't come to college for your roommate(s)! You came to college to start the journey of becoming the best version of yourself. And to do that, you need a comfortable place to come back to! So, speak up!
3. With that in mind, please be considerate. Put yourself first, but do so respectfully. Make sure that at the very least, you're respectful to the people you're living with. Be open to compromise, listening and possibly making changes. Points 2 and 3 may seem a little contradictory, but you will quickly learn how to find the balance between speaking up/asking for what you need, and respecting the needs of your roommate(s).
4. Don't worry! The housing contract that you will go through at the beginning of the year is actually very, very detailed. Spend as much time as possible going through each question. It's the best thing you can do to be proactive, rather than reactive!
5. Your roommate(s) do(es) not have to be your best friend(s)! ResLife isn't matching y'all based on potentially becoming life-long friends, but rather how you would get along living together. They don't foresee you finding the Grace to your Frankie and neither should you! In fact, while your roommate could become your bestie, the majority of people that I know are only in contact with their roommates through being Facebook friends, dm'ing each other memes on IG, or the smiles/head nods that they exchange if they cross paths. The likelihood of you finding the Grace to your Frankie somewhere other than your room is much higher, and you should be excited for that!
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I'd just like to re-emphasize: you do NOT have to be best friends with your roommate(s). What's MOST important in this entire process is that you are a respectful, responsible and communicative person to live with! This is easier said than done, but if there's anything you remember from this blog post it should be the word: communication. So important!
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